Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Open Letter to my Blog Friends

Dear Blog Friends,

Thank you!  Thanks for all of your wonderful, supportive, encouraging comments to my post from last night.  I feel oh so warm and fuzzy inside.  To be honest, I think I felt so much better just writing that post, let alone getting all the fantastic support from you.  

I woke up this morning feeling really positive.  I mean, yeah, this whole deployment thing screws up our "plans" for school and life and whatever, but - plans can change.  Nothing is set in stone.  Whatever happens, I know that we will grow and mature and our marriage will only get stronger.  We can deal with the time apart - I mean, clearly it's not ideal, but it's not insurmountable.  And do I wish that Matt would be here for our first anniversary, the holidays, our birthdays, and our second anniversary?  Sure, of course I do.  But we have a gazillion more birthdays and anniversaries and holidays to celebrate when he gets home.  

I was a military girlfriend and then a military fiancee for years - no reason why I can't be a supportive wife as well, right?  It seems like now that we're getting into the details, it seems completely manageable.  And I refuse to be upset and unhappy for the next few months.  Instead, Matt and I will have a great time together!  Today, he met me at work and we went out to lunch and just walked around town for a bit.  I loved that we had a mid-day date - it seemed so special and fun.  

So.  I refuse to let the Army get the best of me!  I will not let them completely disrupt our lives, despite the fact that, you know, they are completely disrupting our lives!  :)  Instead, we will truly enjoy the time we have before Matt leaves.  And when he does leave, I will keep myself busy.  In fact, I'm already making a mental list of some projects/things to do!  Such as....
1. Organize the scary closet in the guest room (Matt joked that this will likely take 99% of the time he's gone)
2. Join the community orchestra
3. Take a yoga class
4. Learn how to cook lots of good stuff (and remember how to cook for one again)
5. Hang some photos in the apartment
6. Visit lots of friends - especially those in Chicago.  I have lots of friends there!
Well, there are some other things too, I just can't think of everything right now.  Matt and I also plan on going on a Mediterranean cruise when he gets home - we want to go to Spain, France, Italy, and Greece, at minimum.  So, I'm sure I'll busy myself by planning that trip, too.

Anyway,  just wanted to let you know that I think things will be okay.  And, I also wanted to let you know that Matt is okay with the deployment.  While he was active duty, he tried to transfer to a deployable unit three different times, all to no avail.  He originally enlisted in the Army so that he could deploy.  When it didn't happen, well...obviously, that was a disappointment.

Now that he has been recalled from IRR, he really feels that he would have rather been stoplossed.  It would have been much less disruptive - he would have deployed first, BEFORE applying to grad school, BEFORE moving to Indiana.  Yadda yadda.  But, overall, now that it is here, he is ready for the deployment and feels okay about the whole thing.  The main thing he is unhappy with is the length - he is fine with a deployment but just doesn't want to be gone for a year.  

SO, there's the rest of the info, I guess!  Some other, random, unrelated news:  I had to add word verification back to my comments.  I'm sorry.  But over the last couple of weeks, I have gotten a gazillion spam comments in...Japanese.  Blah.  Also, my "wedding ring dermatitis" is almost gone!  So, that's good.  My mom called it "ring rot."  Gross!

Well, I guess that's all for now.  Time to relax in front of the TV!  Happy Tuesday!


Lucy Marie said...

Glad to hear you are feeling better about things today. I'm sure it will be a long journey ahead of you but I know you will be fine. You are such a strong woman and from everything I can tell through your blog, you and your husband have a strong, committed relationship to each other. You also have the support of all of us floating around blogland. The fact that you have such a positive attitude will make it that much easier for you.

The Northerner said...

glad you are feeling better!

ring rot = gross (but it did make me laugh out loud...hehe)

Perfectly Imperfect said...

Glad to hear you are feeling better hon. Don't let this get you down. You can so handle it!

Crazy Shenanigans said...

Yay! That's the best attitude to go into a deployment with. I think you're going to be just fine!

My matt got stoplossed and I think that made it harder on him because he was already mentally preparing to be done with the army. But whatever...everything happens for a reason!

Yeah I hate those spam comments!

Brittany Ann said...

You are such an inspiration! I love your positive attitude, and it's really got me motivated to make my own list! Thank you for that! You are so right! We can totally do this! Love this, thank you!

Casey (@ Ever-Changing Life) said...

Yeah! What a great attitude to have. Another positive- the awesome tax free combat pay. I don't know what he makes now, but for us, it's always a nice bonus.

Anonymous said...

I love your list and am totally positive that you are going to have much, much more added to it in a very short amount of time. I love your positive attitude and am proud of you - even if that sounds a bit odd, I'm trying to imagine myself in your shoes and just hearing your outlook gives me goosebumps.

C said...

what a difference a day makes, I am glad you're feeling better and you know you can count on us for support.

PS - I am re-following using a new URL, come check out my new page :)

Taryn said...

Good for you. I am glad that you are feeling better about the whole thing. I am sure it will be super hard- but your positive attitude is sure to make a difference! I love your list idea. It will probably help the time go be faster. I hope.

Mel said...

Over 4th of July weekend I realized that I have a IRL friend who's fiance is probably going to the same school so I would assume that you guys live in the same area. I think I asked her about the city and she said it was close by. I don't think you and I are FB friends but we should be so maybe you can meet another like minded person who lives near you.

She is a physical therapist and from Cali. Just a thought considering that you will have more free time with Matt being out for a while.

Lucky in Love said...

Glad to hear your doing better friend! Always here if you need anything :)